If there's one thing you are going to do for yourself, let it be to fall back in yourself....
You used to be in love with yourself but life has told you you're not good enough, you won't be able to reach your goals and you are unlovable. And somehow, you ended up believing those things. You started to doubt yourself, you didn't think it was worth trying out for the things you wanted to do. You stopped trying to make friends because you were busy trying to protect yourself. All the while, you were secretly bullying yourself and you didn't even realise it.
It's okay to sometimes have doubts. But those doubts should be used as a fuel to guide to a place of more security. Your doubts shouldn't be there to make too anxious to be involved in anything that life has to offer.
You didn't stop loving yourself over night. It was a gradual process. The way you fell out of love is the same way that you can fall back in love. Put yourself first and slowly one step at a time, you'll be back in love with a new and improved you. You will forgive yourself for the mistakes you make. You will see that you aren't completely flawed and you can embrace all the wonderful gifts that you have to offer.
ᴿᴹ Reminisce
Get out your old photographs and take a walk down memory lane. Remember who you were once upon a time. Think about what you would be saying to mini-you if you could go back in time. Think about all the good things that the young you would have had to look forward to. Now look at yourself in the mirror and say the same things. You are that girl in the photograph and you are owed the same as that girl. Keep repeating this exercise as much and as often as you need to.
ᴿᴹ Goal setting
Couples in love have goals for themselves- meet each others' friends and family, meet the parents, move in together, get engaged, etc. etc.. You too should set some personal goals for yourself. Think about all the things that you enjoy and how you can incorporate more of that in your life. Do you enjoy travelling- perhaps, you could start a travel blog. Is there a dream job that you have always wanted; maybe you can look through the job requirement and work on yourself to make you the best candidate for that role.
ᴿᴹ Set boundaries
Setting boundaries is an important way for you to show up for yourself. Boundary setting isn't about creating restrictive relationships, rather it is about letting people know what you will and won't stand for, what you're comfortable with and what makes you uncomfortable. Question if those people who don't respect your boundaries have any place in your life.
ᴿᴹ Do something for yourself
At the beginning of a new relationship, do you see how much effort your partner puts into the little things? He may get you a surprise coffee or suggest impromptu dates. Do the same for you and put in the same energy you would in a new relationship for you. Go get yourself a cup of coffee from Costa if that's the only nice thing you do for you today.
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