Saying no is an under-rated skill. Let's empower ourselves and master the art of 'no'....
Know what you're saying no to
This might sound obvious, but do you know what you're saying no to? Make sure to get all the information you need to make a measured choice that's right for you. Is it something you genuinely don't want to be involved in, or is it something you could potentially regret later on? Once you know what you're saying no to, you can say no with full peace of mind.
Show appreciation for being asked
Being in a position where you have to decline any offer is a privilege. Let the other person know you are grateful to have been considered. Thank them but also be firm when you say you will not be able to commit to any plans that they may be making.
Don’t leave it too long to decline
As uncomfortable as it may make you to say no initially, it will be far more well received than a half hearted 'maybe'. A maybe is unreliable, a maybe does not give a person a true idea of the head count and a maybe pulls the person away from looking for other options. So, let people know as soon as possible if you are thinking of declining any invitation.
Providing an explanation
You never have to explain your no to anyone. Don't make up an excuse and don't over apologise. Instead just say you are unable to make any firm plans. The only time that an explanation is warranted is if you are cancelling last minute or if the event has already happened and you were a no-show. Both scenarios are poor form and it is very rude to the organiser. Instead, be honest and direct as soon as it is possible to do so.
Don’t feel guilty.
Don't ever feel guilty for saying no to something and standing your ground. Other people do not have to like or understand your reasons for saying no, you just have to understand and like your reasons for saying no.
Follow things up
This is for if you really were interested but other commitments got in the way. In which case, don't be shy about following things up. Ask if there is likely to be another event later or maybe arrange an event yourself and invite the person you said no to along.
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