No matter what the relationship is (friends, family, romantic, work colleagues, etc.), setting your boundaries is one of the best forms of self-care you can do.
This morning as I was scrolling through my phone and I came across a video where a girl was talking about how she is now embracing setting boundaries. One thing she said which really struck a chord was 'setting boundaries is not about keeping others out, it's about keeping me in for longer'. So often people can start blurring boundaries and they make us feel guilty to stand our ground but we should be comfortable with telling people to not make us feel uncomfortable.
Here are the ways that I think people should be putting in boundaries in place for all relationships they have:
Emotional Boundaries
It's okay to have some emotional baggage. Whether it is a personal hang up or it's a past trauma, there is something that makes everyone feel bad and uncomfortable. It's okay to not dwell on those things and not to have conversations that make you feel bad. Be okay with telling people that you don't wish to continue a conversation which make you feel bad.
Time Boundaries
Time is precious. We should use the time we have to build the life we want. Work should be finished and left in the office. 9 to 5 should mean 9 to 5 and not 9 to 5:07. Plans with friends should be seen as a commitment and cancellations should not be left till the last minute. Also, if people decide to invite you last minute to a pre-planned event, you can say no. It is okay for you to express how you feel if your time is being disrespected by others.
Physical Boundaries
It's not necessary to hug everyone you meet. It's not necessary to kiss every guy you date. And if you prefer having some physical space between you and the next person, it is okay to say so.
Relationship
When in a romantic relationship, you and your partner will know each other on a deeper level. You will share things with each other. You know how you want to be treated and it is okay to communicate this with your partner. It is also okay to let others know they have no relevance in your relationship and that their opinions and curiosity are not welcome.
Communications
There are times in your life when you will need to have difficult conversations. The conversations can be confronting and difficult. Think about what you want to achieve and make sure you advocate for yourself. After all, if you won't speak up for yourself, then who will.
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